Feeling Behind

Have you ever been in a situation where you're walking with a group of people and you stop to tie your shoelace but they don't stop and wait for you? That feeling of being left behind. It's not really a satisfying feeling. I don't think anyone like's feeling that they're behind.

Besides the tying of the shoelace, what about when you're the only one in your group that has never been kissed, or the only one that has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend, or the only one who doesn't know what they want to be when they grow up. The littlest challenges that society wants us to achieve can make us feel pressured - and if we don't achieve them, we feel like we're "behind".

The most annoying part about growing up is hearing about "who kissed who", or "who's dating who." We tend to feel somewhat jealous - don't deny it. I admit I feel mindful about my surroundings but then again, who cares! We're only young, we shouldn't care about our next door neighbours first kiss. 

"But why do I feel like I'm the only one who has never experienced these social contacts?"

- Well, society claims that if we don't have our first kiss in our teenage years, then we're not "fitting in with the social group". It's ridiculous. The time will come when we find our prince or princess but for now, what's the point of wasting precious time on waiting for someone to pucker up. I get that it's "experimentation" but really? Is it the end of the world if you don't kiss someone by the age of 18? or never get asked out at lunch time in front of your class mates? 

Anyway, how about getting pressured by your surroundings when you still don't know what you want to be when you grow up? I'm sure that this thought comes across everyones mind on a daily basis but if your friends are talking about it, and you're unsure for yourself, don't get upset knowing that you're the only one who doesn't know because in reality, we're constantly changing our minds and it's so normal to not know who or what you want to be when you grow up because you can be anything your heart desires. We're still young!

So, if you ever feel like you're behind, even if it's behind on the latest celebrity gossip or the new iPhone, always remember to focus on what YOU want to do. Don't waste time worrying about other people because getting upset about not being kissed or not having a significant other will not get you anywhere in life.

Ok...

Xo,